About Steph

I am a Happiness Expert, helping people heal and thrive after divorce

Welcome

 

I am a Happiness Expert whose mission is to empower women to step into the driver’s seat and to create a fulfilling happy life that ripples out onto the world around them.

I spent the larger part of my career working for global organisations and eventually running my own consulting firm in Paris and London. When work/life balance became too much of a challenge, I had the opportunity to become a full-time mum, supporting my daughters and my (now ex) husband’s career.

My divorce unexpectedly took me to the ground and was the catalyst that pushed me to study the “Science of Happiness” at Berkeley University. I have since been trained by the biggest names in psychology and personal development such as Tony Robbins, Dacher Keltner or Rick Hanson. I am constantly adding new cutting-edge techniques to my tool box, like Mindfulness & Meditation, Result Coaching or Positive Neuroplasticity training amongst others.

Before being a Divorce Coach, I am first and foremost a Happiness Expert. I not only help my clients heal and thrive after divorce but also gain life skills, build daily routines that will serve their wellbeing and happiness for the rest of their life.

My approach is at the intersection of science and spirituality. I combine ancient wisdom with the most cutting edge science. So whatever my clients’ personal beliefs are, my strategies and techniques always resonate with them and gives them the unshakable motivation to take action.

I am also the founder of The Happiness Society (www.TheHappinessSociety.com), a company that provides coaching and leadership training to help executives manage stress, live fulfilling lives and drive profit through a more conscious leadership style.

Hi! I'm Steph

It is the earth-shattering experience of my own divorce that took me to Happiness consultancy and coaching. Once I found the light at the end of the tunnel and fully realised that my divorce was in fact a blessing in disguise, I knew that it was my mission to help people going through divorce and separation. 

My 4 steps methodology

I have developed a unique methodology to keep your sanity while separating and to build the inner resources to move on from the past, to heal and to start creating a new exciting life for the new you.

Manage stress to feel calmer, more in control and to gain the clarity to make the right decisions.

Free yourself from the past, let go of your ex and re- discover who you truly are.

Build a strong mindset, gain unshakable confidence in yourself and in what life has to offer.

Define your desires and goals, design a plan of action and move forward every day.

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Frequently Asked Questions

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – supporting and teaching people like you on exactly what to do to go through a separation successfully, to heal faster and to build the inner resources to create a new life that you are excited about and that truly fulfils you.

That defining moment in my life happened in 2015.

Looking back, I would have described myself as a very fortunate woman living a privileged life.

I have had a successful corporate career in media and owned my own consulting firm. I got married, had 2 beautiful children. And when work/life balance became too much of a challenge, I had the opportunity to become a full-time mum, supporting my daughters and my husband’s career.

I basically had an amazing life and career trajectory from the moment I'd been adopted as a child. There was only happiness.

Or so I had made myself believe, until that one fateful Wednesday morning in June when my husband unexpectedly left. From that moment on, my life took a different spin, I broke down and found myself in full depression mode. The image of myself I had carefully crafted over the years, that warrior business girl, now full-time mother, confident and always smiling was gone! I was burnt-out by stress, petrified about the future, ashamed by my poor self-esteem and completely paralysed by fear, financial insecurities and the prospect of having to go back to work after a nine-year break.

I had the shocking realisation that I had never really been truly happy before, something was always missing. While a successful professional, my life was badly tinted by stress and anxiety.

I was only just coping until the next holiday, like a hamster in a wheel, missing out on all the fun of the journey. While a full-time-mum, I had lost part of my identity, a sense of purpose, achievement and self-esteem.

All I kept saying to myself was: How am i going to get over this horrible divorce? How am I ever going to find love again? How will I raise both my kids on my own? How will I get another job after being out of the workplace for 9 years? Why am I such a loser? Why did I settle for average most of my life ? Will I ever be happy again? Why are some people happy and others so unhappy - and how do I figure this out even though I'm so depressed right now?  

I made a decision right then and there that I was going to figure out this whole “Happiness thing”. At that very moment, I made a commitment to immerse myself in absolutely everything that had to do with Happiness : I got into the Science of Happiness and within weeks of applying the techniques I was learning, my mindset and entire take on life shifted.

My capacity to identify and enjoy simple beautiful things in life started growing a little bit more each day. I learnt to embrace my emotions rather than fight against them. I learnt to love myself again - and in process found out that I was someone very different from both the warrior business girl or the depressed wreck, I was someone else in the middle, kind, compassionate, full of hope, who deserved to create a happy life for herself. I managed to reconnect with a lost enthusiasm for life. Fear was soon replaced by hope and life became a vast field of possibilities. I found a new sense of peace, confidence and the clarity to become the dreamer of my dreams, the architect of my own life. I rewired my brain to be happy regardless of my circumstances and to have the confidence to take risks and create the fun life that I deserve.

I cleaned up my past, kept on studying cutting-edge techniques with Mindfulness, coaching and Positive Neuroplasticity Training and started teaching other people how to do the same: I watched their mindsets shift, their inner strengths and confidence grow, their enthusiasm for life sky rocket! I watched them having fun while healing, discovering their true self, gaining confidence, and moving on by creating happiness and success in all areas of their life.

I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other ambitious women all over the world to go through divorce/separation while keeping their sanity, to heal faster, to discover their true self, to learn to love themselves, to gain the clarity and confidence to create the fulfilling life they know they want and most importantly to have fun while doing it!


Since then, I’ve worked with hundreds of clients, spoken in front of countless groups: I live my dream of earning an income on my own terms, while having a fun-packed life and dedicating time to my family ; and I have created a divorce coaching program called RECLAIM YOUR LIFE™, a series of 4 important inner and outer steps everyone needs to successfully go through divorce.

I work with people just like you who are ambitious independent women (entrepreneurs, corporate warriors or full-time mum CEOs of their families) who want to let go of the pain of a divorce, who want to heal fast, to grow and reclaim the inner resources to build a 360 degrees life that fulfils them.

Women who want to

  • Stay sane (during and after) the challenging times of divorce
  • Make sure that divorce does not take a toll on their health, physical and mental
  • Have the clarity to make the right decisions
  • Stay strong for their children
  • Heal fast, let go of their ex and move on with their life
  • Grow and re-invent themselves as a single person/parent
  • Build the confidence to move to the next phase of their life
  • Become a fabulous single parent
  • Love themselves and find love again

Women who are stuck in an unfulfilling relationship, who are in the midst of divorce or who have made it the other end of divorce but who want more.

Divorce is 80% emotional. While you might think that you will be capable of dealing with this emotional rollercoaster, don’t forget that you are now battling against someone who knows exactly how to push all your buttons.

Regardless of whether you instigated the separation or if you are on the receiving end of it, your mind and body are now officially tipped into Fight/Flight/Freeze, i.e. the Stress mode. Staying calm and thinking rationally will be a challenge.

DIVORCE IS THE 2ND MOST STRESSFUL LIFE EVENT

AFTER THE DEATH OF A LOVED ONE

The consequences of this level of intensity of stress will touch every aspect of your life, you sleep patterns, your physical and mental health, your eating/drinking habits, your confidence, your ability to think rationally …

People make the common mistake to use their lawyer for emotional support! An email arrives from their ex and they get on the phone to their lawyers. And the legal fees invoice arrives as a shock a month later ! Lawyers are there to deal with your legal business, they are great at getting you the best deal but they are not qualified to support you emotionally.  Of course they’ll hear you out and will want to help but remember that the money clock is ticking at the same time. This is a complete waste of time and money.

Spend your money wisely and get a therapist, a divorce coach, a mentor.

Ideally someone who has been through this and will not only understand you but will be able to provide you with :

  • a roadmap
  • shortcuts to avoid pitfalls and pains
  • strategies and techniques to help you stay sane, gain the clarity to make the right decisions and rebuild yourself as a single person.

A divorce coach will save you time (because you will heal and move on faster) and money

Before becoming a Divorce Coach, I am first and foremost a Happiness Expert.

I will help you go through your divorce but also gain life skills, build daily routines that will serve your wellbeing and happiness throughout your life.

My approach is at the intersection of science and spirituality. So whatever your personal beliefs are, whether you are a 100% rational or more open to spirituality, my tools and techniques will always resonate with you, you will understand all theirs principles and have the unshakable motivation to move forward with them.

My experience of the science of happiness and divorce is both academic and experiential.

I have been to the trenches, I had a messy and difficult divorce, I fought depression, low self-esteem and I had to totally reinvent myself and set-up a business from scratch that met the values I carefully defined for my ideal life.

I will help you save money not only because you won’t use your lawyer as a “shrink” but because:

  • You will have the clarity to set both realistic and challenging goals for your divorce, work more efficiently with your lawyer and make the right decisions
  • You will benefit from a holistic approach : you won’t have to go to a therapist for emotional support, a hypnotherapist for sleeping issues and anxiety, a business coach to work out what your next career move is.

We will cover all these topics together from your physical health, mental health, parenting, conflict management, relaxation, goal setting, confidence building, career …I work on the inner and outer principles for Happiness and Success post separation and look at your life from an organic and holistic perspective.

I will help you save time. Research shows that divorce is on average 2 full years of stress, pain, sleepless nights and then another 4 years to fully rebuild your life. With me by your side, you will take shortcuts, heal in record time and start building your new life immediately.

What that means to you is that you get a wise-sage-meets-kick-butt authentic Divorce coach. I’m direct but compassionate and you will always get a straight to the point quick and honest response from me. Sometimes, you may not like what I have to tell you – but you can be sure I will always tell you the truth. The truth about what’s standing in the way of your healing and growth and how to get rid of it FAST.  

I am a no BS sort of girl, I will go straight to the point to get you results in record time (and I throw in a healthy dose of humor and practical suggestions, which always helps!).

RECLAIM YOUR LIFE™ workshops, products and programs were created for women going through divorce or post divorce who are dead serious about moving forward with their life, about learning and growing, about closing a chapter of their life and starting writing the next one.

This means not running around all day long, beating yourself up anymore saying: “This is so unfair”, “I’ll never get through this”, “I’ll never find love again”, “I’m a loser” or “Life is horrible”

Because none of the above is true and I will prove it to you.

With the right strategies and techniques, you can heal, you can gain the strengths that create a mindset that serves you, you can become strong and confident and become the wonderful architect of your life. You can achieve anything.

They were created for you to put systems in place within a few months (sometimes weeks!), which will eventually lead you to step into the driver’s seat and create a meaningful, fulfilling, happy and successful life, to feeling calm, confident, worthy, valued and loved.

Being an authentic, open-minded, and growth-oriented person myself, I’m known to work best with other authentic, open-minded, and growth-oriented people who are committed to creating a life that really matters, who are super-ready to move forward and just want to know exactly what steps to take to reclaim their life, to come out the other end of divorce feeling optimistic and confident.


You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. No excuses anymore, just a very different way of thinking and full support, while you achieve this incredibly exciting goal of reclaiming your life.

This program is not for people who want a quick fix. If there was a quick fix to divorce, I would give it to you. But there is none. Everybody goes through the same stages with divorce (sometimes in a different order and at a different pace) but you will go through each and everyone of them and you need strategies at each stage.

These stages are :

  • Denial: "This is not happening to me. It's all a misunderstanding. It's just a midlife crisis. We can work it out."
  • Anger and resentment: "How can he do this to me? What did I ever do to deserve this? This is not fair!"
  • Bargaining: "If you'll stay, I'll change" or "If I agree to do it (money, sex, whatever…) your way, can we get back together?"
  • Depression: "This is really happening, I can't do anything about it, and I don't think I can bear it."
  • Acceptance: "Okay, this is how it is, and I'd rather accept it and move on than wallow in the past."

This program is not for people who are not willing to let go of their relationship for good. You might not be ready to let go of your ex, to grieve your relationship or your family but as long as you have the desire to move on, we can work things out. Without this strong desire, we cannot get results.

This program is not for people who are not willing to take serious and consistent action.

RECLAIM YOUR LIFE™ begins with getting you in a place of calm where you reboot your nervous system. This allows you to move out of the Stress mode - Fight/Flight/Freeze zone -  and regain calm and clarity. Only then can we start working on healing, letting go, moving forward, rewiring your brain to get you making progress fast.

Here’s what the methodology entails:

 

  • PEACE : Stress, anxiety, fear add to the heartache by badly impairing your physical and mental wellbeing and  your ability to see things with clarity. So, we will first get you into a safe place of calm and serenity so that you feel better fast and you gain good clarity on your needs, desires and goals. You will learn to manage stress and build resilience.

 

The purpose is to get you quickly in a position to design a plan of action to heal and design your new life.

 

  • HEALING : You will start to let go of everything that is holding you back (disappointments, your ex and your own limiting beliefs) and learn to forgive (others and yourself too). These are nothing but heavy bricks in your backpack, you will drop them one at a time and for good so that your journey becomes effortless. You will discover your authentic self, your new identity and strengths as a single person, a single parent. You will learn to nurture and love yourself in a way that attracts and nurtures meaningful and loving relationships in your life.

 

 

  • EMPOWERMENT : Through science-backed techniques, you will  beat the negativity bias of the brain, cultivate optimism and develop a strong focussed mindset that beats fear and sees the world as an exciting field of opportunities. You will manage the inner (and outer) critic like a pro, sky-rocket you confidence, feel strong, worthy and valued regardless of the current circumstances of your life.

 

 

  • DESIGN : Will calm, clarity and power, you will be able to define your goals and desires, translate them into a plan and take actions one day at a time to manifest your new life.

 

I will be holding your hand all along the journey, keeping accountability and making sure your eyes do not leave the prize. We will create a daily routine that keeps you on track to creating the life that you want until it’s time to reap the rewards. This is where you enjoy all the fruits of your labor and identify with the amazing life architect your have become.

Yes! The result of our work is an approach to managing stress and anxiety, to rewiring your brain, to shift your mindset so that with time and consistency, you’ll engage with life in very different and more constructive way to heal fast and boost your resilience, optimism, confidence and clarity.

Be prepared to let go of the past, to heal the traumas and limiting beliefs and to experience shifts and powerful positive emotions about yourself and about the world around you, some of which you have never experienced before.

You can expect to :

  • Have big breakthrough and ah ha moments
  • Improve your health by efficiently managing stress and building resilience
  • Keep calm and manage emotions and reactions, even in difficult times
  • Learn to let go, forgive and find more peace and compassion
  • Discover and love your authentic self
  • Get rid of what is holding you back
  • Gain unshakable confidence in yourself (a lot of my clients tell me that is worth the investment alone)
  • Get crystal clear on what matters to you in life and live by it
  • Feel excited and empowered about the future
  • Fill your gas tank and learn how to self-nurture
  • Create new goals that light your fire
  • Stay accountable to these goals and achieve them
  • Rewire your brain to become more positive, optimistic and fearless
  • Create meaningful relationships based on love and trust
  • Love yourself and attract loving relationships into your life
  • Get proven science-backed techniques you can apply right away to not have to reinvent the wheel on your own
  • Receive specific tools, templates and exercises for you to use : “just add water”

The results depend on how quickly you can make those inner shifts.

Some clients are ready to let go and move on, they sky rocket their Happiness and Success in a very short time frame, sometimes even a few weeks while others have a bit more work to do first. It very much all depends on your commitment to do the work but also on your starting point, your current situation.

Do all of your homework, be committed to your wellbeing.

Understand that this is a process, a proven one, that works if you take action and implement all of the steps.

All my clients who have diligently applied every step of The Reclaim Your Life Program see incredible changes, in much less time than they would have on their own.

Within the first month, they can see these amazing changes:

 

  • - 50% Stress
  • + 35% general happiness, wellbeing
  • + 45% confidence

 

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